I can relate to a lot of this. When you start really thinking about the family dynamics and the roles everyone over time has assumed, sometimes you just want to shake your head. Kind of like, huh, it's true, I'm always the one who clears out the dishwasher; i don't know why, don't know when it began, really don't think it's fair, but that's what I do; and everybody expects me to continue doing it.

At the same time, as much as you'd like to alter some of the evolved rules, you realize that, if you try, you might just cause more trouble for yourself and the "balance" that exists than you'd want. So...you just kind of let things be.